On Sadness

Abuse creates many feelings. The fallout from dealing with abuse is almost uncountable. Let's talk about sadness for a moment though.

Say you're safe from abuse, living your life, and suddenly WHAM!! You feel so sad and so down. Say you pick yourself back up, reassure your inner child that you're both safe now and keep going and what? WHAM! Again! What is that? Frankly I have no idea why this happens but it does.

Do you have pressures from things you're not dealing with? If so this could be why. Please review the post on procrastination. I find that whenever I feel very very sad and down it's because I haven't taken care of the things I need to. When I DO get them taken care of it's like Christmas :). Free time, me time, fewer cares and worries, all good stuff.

Abuse puts burdens on people they don't need but procrastination doesn't help at all. Face those fears, do your chores, pay your bills or make arrangements and feel the weight lift off of you. If you don't have a job, apply for jobs :). When you get a job, hopefully one you love or at least like or that pays really well that you can stand, you'll also feel much better and less vulnerable.

Imagine a pile of undone things on your back, crushing you, pinning you down. As you get each one taken care of and eliminated, your burden lightens and you stand taller.

A disclaimer though, if you often find yourself sad and hopeless and you've taken care of these things and still feel that way, please see someone for help. Many things can cause depression and there is help for it. Please don't feel ashamed to ask for help.

Hugs,
Joan